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The top 5 dating mistakes men continually make

January 18, 2011 Leave a comment

Many guys think they go about attracting women in the right way but soon find that they become liked and are seen of as a friend rather than a potential partner.  This does nothing but frustrate the guys that thought they had game and were going about things in the right way.  Listening too intently and trying to mould oneself into what women say they want, is usually the downfall of these guys.

Here we’ll discuss 5 common things that guys do, usually in the best of interest, that move them further away from being the object of desire.


Being too much of a nice guy

Many women say they are looking for a nice guy but that is generally not how they  base their choices of men on.  It doesn’t matter how nice or caring a guy is as they choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction.  Being nice doesn’t make women feel such an attraction.


Not understanding how attraction works for women

When a guy see an beautiful women, he feel a sexual attraction to her.  Simple right?  But it doesn’t work the other way round, as women are more attracted to certain qualities in men.  They are more attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to their looks.   This is why you will see many average looking guys with stunning women as they have tapped into this notion!  Make them feel special, desired and beautiful and you will be the most handsome guy in the room.


Looking for her approval

So in order to show that they care for women, many guys become puppets and look for approval or permission from them before taking any course of action.  Whilst they may consider themselves as being considerate and thoughtful, nothing can be more painstakingly annoying for a woman.  This will not make her like you more!  By this we don’t mean treat her bad but you do not need to constantly seek approval from a woman to go ahead and do something.


Assuming it takes money and good looks

Many guys use this as an excuse to not even get started or justify their passive and inactive approach or dating game.  Thinking she’s out of your league or you are not the calibre of guy she goes for is not how guys managed to attract beautiful women.  Sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things but by far these are the minority.  Women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or looks.  Using communication, body language correctly can make women feel the same attraction you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.


Getting too emotionally involved early on

There is no need to share with a woman, even if you feel it, how you feel about her too early on in a relationship.  Show some control and do not tell her you are into her after the first few days or dates.  This just indicates and signals that you fall too easily and are perhaps insincere what expressing yourself.  This can do more damage than you expect.   See how your relationship develops before jumping in and expressing you undivided love for her.


While this is not a comprehensive list, you will know if you are one of those guys.  The worse thing you can do is acknowledge what you do and not make any changes as this will result in not just the same outcome but will leave you feeling worse when you realise.  When you notice yourself making or about to make any of these mistakes then take a step back and think about how your actions will be perceived and interpreted.  Doing this will definitely improve your dating game immeasurably!


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How much dating game do you have?

August 26, 2010 Leave a comment have innovative solutions to help

Isn’t it strange how everyone focuses on the end goal and seldom pay any attention to the path. We are not trying to be deliberately philosophical but from friends, family to our online life through social networks and websites, they all seem focused on getting us a partner or date(s). Dating websites seem to rarely focus on someone’s ability with a potential date or partner but just getting a mere result. Whilst they may match people on compatibility and hobbies to make the transition from stranger to potential partner supposedly easier, they neglect the person’s ability to give a good impression, ability to converse, build attraction etc.

Dating is not as easy as we think
It’s assumed that we all have the ability to chat and build attraction with people who have similar tastes. Surely, we just need to talk about common interests? Well, that doesn’t really make us stand out and the impression that gives is obviously going to be regarded as attractive. Where is the intrigue, spontaneity, humour, the allure, the curiosity that makes your date want you and desire you beyond a platonic way? Whilst we may be able to show such attributes when we are in our comfortable circles amongst our friends, many people especially when in the company of someone they perceive as more attractive or socially higher than them feel anxiety and as a result are not able to give off the impression that they are capable of. Many men make fools out of themselves in the company of attractive women which otherwise would be out of character. Perhaps, they make a remark, comment or joke that simply does not befit the situation or worse still causes some offence. It’s obvious that many people have this problem. Being the centre of attention amongst their safety net yet being a fish out of water when in unfounded territory.

Dating advice and training
In our jobs we get offered all sorts of training to develop ourselves such as presentation, negotiation, stakeholder management skills as they help us improve our competence or skill within our jobs. By understanding what we need to do or could do differently we are able to change our behaviour to make us more productive and effective in our jobs. Sounds very simple and obvious and there is obviously real benefit in it otherwise companies would not be spending $billions on staff training. Yet, when it comes to dating, we just do not see it in the same way despite many of us having clear problems and failing in our ability to makes a good impression, being able to approach, knowing how to converse or build attraction. We do need help but we seem reluctant to take advice in this area out of perceived social stigma or a sense of pride. Without such we remain doing the same things we do and fail to make improvements and as a result become dejected at the way things are going.

Improving your game and making the best impression
We recommend that you take a look at the Online Dating Blog as they focus on helping people achieve the results they are capable of in the dating arena. Effectively, they offer a number of courses focusing on dating advice and training to help you achieve a better experience and get more from your efforts. Whether you feel anxious during the approach, get tongue tied when talking, are unsure of what to say, or just simply lack the confidence to meet with the people you find attractive then there is a lot of help on the Online Dating Blog through a number of FREE eCourses. There are also a number of full courses which go into much more depth and guarantee you to get results. The beauty of these courses are that if you do not see any results after following the advice and reading the course, they will refund anything you pay. So in essence, if you are not able to attract anyone you like and come away with atleast their number, you will get your money back. Many products make such claims but not many of those have featured in the likes of major global publications such as FHM, MAXIM, Playboy and have featured on global media channels such as the BBC, ABC, FOX and been tested on shows like Dr Phil and the Tyra Banks Show. These courses are of the highest quality as to get such extensive positive media coverage must been the courses are worthwhile. They were proven on live television. Don’t take our word for it, check out the youtube clips on the website taken directly.

You have nothing to lose, so why not check out the FREE courses and see how you can up your dating game and easily attract people. Essentially, we all have the requisite skills but few of us use these. It really is very simple once you know how and have build up the confidence. Check out the site and videos and you’ll soon be on your way to being the one that always gets the girl and is never sidelined. Simple dating advice and techniques that gets proven results as featured in FHM, MAXIM, BBC, FOX, ABC and shows including Tyra Banks Show, Dr Phil and even Playboy.

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