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The top 5 dating mistakes men continually make

January 18, 2011 Leave a comment

Many guys think they go about attracting women in the right way but soon find that they become liked and are seen of as a friend rather than a potential partner.  This does nothing but frustrate the guys that thought they had game and were going about things in the right way.  Listening too intently and trying to mould oneself into what women say they want, is usually the downfall of these guys.

Here we’ll discuss 5 common things that guys do, usually in the best of interest, that move them further away from being the object of desire.


Being too much of a nice guy

Many women say they are looking for a nice guy but that is generally not how they  base their choices of men on.  It doesn’t matter how nice or caring a guy is as they choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction.  Being nice doesn’t make women feel such an attraction.


Not understanding how attraction works for women

When a guy see an beautiful women, he feel a sexual attraction to her.  Simple right?  But it doesn’t work the other way round, as women are more attracted to certain qualities in men.  They are more attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to their looks.   This is why you will see many average looking guys with stunning women as they have tapped into this notion!  Make them feel special, desired and beautiful and you will be the most handsome guy in the room.


Looking for her approval

So in order to show that they care for women, many guys become puppets and look for approval or permission from them before taking any course of action.  Whilst they may consider themselves as being considerate and thoughtful, nothing can be more painstakingly annoying for a woman.  This will not make her like you more!  By this we don’t mean treat her bad but you do not need to constantly seek approval from a woman to go ahead and do something.


Assuming it takes money and good looks

Many guys use this as an excuse to not even get started or justify their passive and inactive approach or dating game.  Thinking she’s out of your league or you are not the calibre of guy she goes for is not how guys managed to attract beautiful women.  Sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things but by far these are the minority.  Women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or looks.  Using communication, body language correctly can make women feel the same attraction you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.


Getting too emotionally involved early on

There is no need to share with a woman, even if you feel it, how you feel about her too early on in a relationship.  Show some control and do not tell her you are into her after the first few days or dates.  This just indicates and signals that you fall too easily and are perhaps insincere what expressing yourself.  This can do more damage than you expect.   See how your relationship develops before jumping in and expressing you undivided love for her.


While this is not a comprehensive list, you will know if you are one of those guys.  The worse thing you can do is acknowledge what you do and not make any changes as this will result in not just the same outcome but will leave you feeling worse when you realise.  When you notice yourself making or about to make any of these mistakes then take a step back and think about how your actions will be perceived and interpreted.  Doing this will definitely improve your dating game immeasurably!


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